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Mentally & Emotionally Stagnant People Usually Say 9 Phrases In Casual Conversation We’re all expected to move forward in life, but few people can avoid moments when they feel mentally or emotionally stuck in a way that they can't seem to break past. Reaching a place where you feel stagnant can be genuinely depressing and anxiety-inducing, even if you're not exactly sure of what it is that is happening or why you're not making progress. A person who feels like they're just treading water on a daily basis will often say things to others that convey their frustration with their lack of forward movement. Those they are close to may already be annoyed by their seeming stubbornness, but if they really listen, they'll likely hear hints that their loved one is just as confused and unhappy about it as they are. People who are mentally and emotionally stagnant often say these phrases in casual conversations 1. 'I guess I'm just unlucky' Africa Images via Canva If someone struggles to grow, they might blame external factors. Instead of trying to better themselves, they’ll claim everyone who does is lucky. This is frustrating because it ignores the work others are doing to lift themselves. Sure, succeeding in life takes a bit of luck here and there, but blaming bad luck isn't usually a good look. Psychologists have found that people who view themselves as lucky have a more positive view of life. While feeling lucky can improve your mood, it’s not always an excuse to avoid bettering yourself. 2. ‘I’m never going to change’ People who stay stagnant might tell you exactly where they’re at. If you come to them with a concern, they might say, point blank, that they are never going to change. It’s frustrating to see someone choose to live in negative situations they could easily improve if they were willing to put in the effort. Some people feel like they genuinely can’t change. They may start to take steps to improve themselves, but give up along the way. This can be a sign that they are dealing with deeper problems, like depression or lack of motivation. Most people can relate to that or feel empathy for it, but it's still difficult to watch someone refuse to improve, even if they have the tools to do so. 3. ‘I’m sick of trying’ It’s not easy to put in effort and come out empty-handed. They may have a history of high achievement, but constantly find themselves cut down by others. Self-improvement can feel like you’re on a treadmill. You’re constantly moving, but never reaching a destination. This can make people sick of trying to change themselves or their lives. This is understandable. We’ve all felt like we were missing the mark when trying to change ourselves. However, staying stagnant isn’t the answer, especially when you're stuck in a vicious cycle of pain and suffering. 4. ‘I’m fine with how things are’ Egoitz Bengoetxea Iguaran from Getty Images via Canva When someone claims they’re fine, they are not always telling the truth. It’s easier to deny our true feelings than to open up to those around us. Instead of admitting they need to change, they’ll use this tactic to explain away their stagnation. However, not everyone thinks they need to change. Someone may be genuinely fine with the way their life is going, even if those around them think they need to make serious adjustments to their daily life. Staying the same is often the safest route. There’s comfort in doing the same thing day in and day out. Even if others around them wish they’d progress, this type of person may prefer to stay exactly how they are. 5. ‘I don’t need your advice’ Receiving unsolicited advice can be stressful. It’s hard to hear other people give their opinions about our lives and the decisions we should make. Anyone can be bothered by this, but people who refuse to change may find this especially frustrating. Instead of hearing them out, they often shut down to avoid dealing with it entirely. Stagnant people may shut down when they hear advice from others. It can feel like an attack. This is especially true when they believe their lives are going totally fine. People trying to help are usually coming from a good place, but it’s not always well received. 6. ‘I am who I am’ Researchers at Yale found that self-descriptions influence our attitudes. Talking kindly about ourselves goes a long way, while negativity can keep us bogged down. When someone claims they are who they are and will never change, they stay in that mindset. Instead of working through things, they stay stagnant in their everyday lives. Some people think who they are is who they will always be. This keeps them from seeing their true potential. Without goals or the inspiration to move forward, they remain in the same place. 7. ‘I don’t care anymore’ martin-dm from Getty Images Signature via Canva When things keep going poorly for us, it’s easy to get caught up in that mindset. We start to feel like nothing matters, and caring about everyday tasks feels pointless. Why bother trying to improve ourselves when everything is going wrong? I’ve been guilty of getting caught up in these feelings, which have left me in one place instead of letting me grow into my full potential. If someone is saying they don’t care anymore in casual conversations, they are likely struggling. While it can be hard to be a supportive friend when you see someone stuck in a rut, a strong support system may help them move forward. 8. 'Everyone is so negative' Stagnation can make it feel like everyone around you is against you. We might ask ourselves why they can’t seem to understand what we’re going through. When they come to you with a genuine concern, it can feel like a personal attack. Rather than letting them live their lives, they feel like the people they know are trying to bring them down. Often, people are coming from a good place and want to help those in need. When our mindsets are negative, we interpret everything that way, pushing ourselves away from those who want to help us grow. 9. ‘What’s the point?’ It can feel impossible to change when nothing feels worthwhile. What’s the point of trying to succeed when everything around you feels difficult to manage? Whether it’s from anxiety and depression or feelings of loneliness, having this attitude can keep someone completely stagnant. They don’t feel motivated to grow because, to them, it’s all pointless. This type of person might feel like they’re not good at anything. Why try for that promotion at work when it will never happen? Low self-esteem can hold them back from reaching their full potential because they don’t think they are good enough. Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.